We learn, in our own way, how to deal with them. I'd like to go as far as saying there's no right or wrong way in handling the surprises, good or bad, that life throws our way. However, there are things you can do to help you deal.
In life, we continue to learn as we grow. We have milestones that we reach in our lives beginning in infancy, some may even say before that. We learn how to hold our heads up. We learn how to chew. We learn how to walk. You get the picture. However, one of the most important milestones that we reach in life is our thought process. That is an ongoing milestone that we are always improving upon (or in some cases declining upon). We always learn how to deal, how to react.
Our thought process can help to define us as individuals. How we deal and react to situations help us learn and grow, in a positive or negative manner. It is up to us to decide. I am constantly, constantly evolving on this.
Several events in my life have taught me how to react in any given situations. I'm still learning actually. I have choices to make. We all do. I try not to react to a situation without thinking it through.
I've come to realize that while I can do something about some things, I choose not to. I choose to do nothing about decisions made by others. I choose to do nothing about the reactions made by others. I choose to do nothing about any negative consequences based on my actions (unless I deliberately, willfully and maliciously hurt someone, which this is not the case). In doing nothing about it I choose to:
Let It Go
I think that this is a lesson that we all should learn or put into practice. Let it go and accept the things that we cannot change. We will be so much happier for it. I hope to impart this lesson on my children as they continue to grow and learn.
This is where I will send all that I let go. Down a lonely road by itself. :-)